Support your spouse with these tips if they suffer from anxiety. You will see that he will emerge from this soon, so don’t be discouraged.
We’ve all experienced emotions like fear or panic when we’re in danger. This feeling of anguish that we experience is a natural reaction generated unconsciously by the brain that generates to help us face dangers or any situation that we need to defend ourselves and escape from in order to survive.
However, feeling fear may not be so normal when it is often experienced in the absence of real danger; this is known as anxiety.
Anxiety can be recognized when there are symptoms such as worry, insecurity, difficulty making decisions, negative thoughts, fear of losing control of a situation, difficulty concentrating; including sweating, muscle tension, headaches, among others.
When we identify these symptoms in our spouse, we must support them immediately. According to experts, anxiety can be related to health problems such as diabetes, heart disease, thyroid problems, among others.
How to support and help our spouse
Once your husband or wife has a specialist diagnosis and is undergoing treatment, you can support them in the following ways:
1. Being empathetic
We often fail to empathize with our spouses because they claim that their fears and panic are real, even though we know there is no danger. Of course, this can trigger conflict in the marriage. Therefore, we must learn to empathize with him, understanding his discomfort, because, although there is no real danger, we must know that it exists for him.
What you can do? Listen carefully to him, tell him you understand how he feels, provide a safe environment and remember to never invalidate his feelings as he will feel rejection and this can seriously damage his self-esteem for feeling unloved and understood.
2. Don’t tell him your fear isn’t real
If you try to explain to him that your feelings aren’t real, he’ll feel like an idiot. It is better to let him say what he feels and what is the origin of his fears so that he can understand and, thus, be able to help by anticipating situations that make him feel anxious.
For example, your spouse may be anxious about the stress of the workload or not being able to meet the family’s needs. So, it’s time to support and help lighten your load.
3.Help him to distract his mind
I do not suggest, here, that you become the jester to amuse your spouse, on the contrary, it is a good time to implement coexistence strategies and, thus, get out of the routine and break the monotony.
Remember, for people who suffer from anxiety, a day without feeling fear is the best, so it’s very helpful and supportive to distract your spouse by doing things out of the ordinary. Maybe it’s good for him to go out to eat at a restaurant, walk in the park, do some physical activity among other ideas.
4. Show your love
One of the frequent fears of some people who suffer from anxiety is being abandoned or not loved by their spouse because they have this disease. That’s why it’s essential that you show your affection in different ways. It can be physically, with hugs, kisses, caresses, intimate encounters; or with any affectionate gesture, such as letters, messages, etc.
He should feel safe and secure by your side; so never stop showing him how important he is to you and that you love him for who he is.
5. Don’t treat him as sick
It is difficult to continue living in the same way when you see your loved one suffering, however, you must continue with your own life, that is, avoid radical changes in your routine or lifestyle. That way, your partner will feel supported when you stop treating them like a sick person.
Now, you can remain attentive, but not show too much, so that your spouse doesn’t feel useless and doesn’t feel like he’s being a hindrance that only causes him pain and suffering. That’s why it’s recommended to continue with the same lifestyle, without changing anything, so that your partner feels supported, without this affecting their self-esteem.
Setting new goals and objectives is an effective way to motivate your spouse and thus make them feel good. When the two of you set goals and work together to achieve them, he will feel supported and motivated.
Remember to set short-term goals that can be achieved quickly. Thus, both will feel satisfied and happy.
Having anxiety is a problem that undoubtedly should be diagnosed and treated by a specialist. However, your help and support at home will be important so that your husband or wife can heal and feel good. Remember that love can heal everything and that together you will overcome this one.